Category Archives: Dalai-Nana’s Loves

Children, Grandchildren and what makes them special!

Cranberries and Popcorn

Cranberries and Popcorn

Stringing decorations for Great grandparents

My father is almost 94 and my mother is 85.  They live together nearby with the help of only once a week cleaning service.  We try to make sure they have meals prepared and available in case they don’t feel like cooking but don’t always manage.

They grew up during the depression and the effect that has had on them is evident even today.  My mother suffered more because her father also died in the midst of the depression leaving my grandmother with 7 children to raise.  Both of my parents are deeply religious.

My mother has always loved Christmas and reflects a rather childlike wonder but more importantly a depth of love about the holidays that few people can match.    Anyway, my husband likes to make sure they have a little Christmas cheer in their surroundings so he bought a small Norfolk island pine tree.

The grandchildren were over for the day and we went down to my parents – their great grandparent’s house to decorate the little tree.  First we had to pop the popcorn – a minor task compared to the days of cooking over the stove not to mention the open fire.   Then we had to get four separate – yet equal – needles and thread for the four grandchildren (you know how that goes) and give some instructions.  The stringing of popcorn and cranberries made a bit of a mess but also a lovely decoration for the tree.  The children have a fun memory of doing something that brought joy to their great grandparents and it will also be good for the birds after the holidays – waste not, want not – as my mother would say.

What have you done to share holiday joy?

Holiday Bargains Galore!

Holiday Bargains Galore!

Smiling pigtail to pigtail!

What a bargain grandchildren are! I give them my loose change, and they give me a million dollars’ worth of pleasure. ~Gene

I feel like this every time I am fortunate enough to spend time with my grandchildren.  The joy they spread is immeasurable and yet they are totally unaware.  Maybe that is why it is called pure joy!

Hope you had a fabulous time over the holidays with your families.  I did and will post more as we enter the crazy holiday period!

Happy Thanksgiving

Dr. Amy Helps Celebrate Grandparents Day with Free Activity kit for Children

Dr. Amy Helps Celebrate Grandparents Day with Free Activity kit for Children

Quote startChildren gain a much broader sense of the world, how it was in the past and how it has evolved, when they have meaningful connection with their grandparents.Quote end

Toronto, Ontario (PRWEB) August 31, 2011

Dr. Amy, an expert in caregiving, aging, and retirement, says there are compelling reasons to make a fuss over grandparents. She has developed a free kit for children, containing activities designed to build the bonds of love and understanding on Grandparents Day—and every day.

. The kit is being distributed through various agencies in the United States and Canada, including the Assisted Living Federation of America.

Here are Dr. Amy’s three reasons to celebrate Grandparents Day:
1.    Grandparents enrich their grandchildren’s lives by providing a deeper sense of history and identity

  •     Children gain a much broader sense of the world, how it was in the past and how it has evolved, when they have meaningful connection with their grandparents. War, politics, medical advances, technology, the role of women—grandparents have lived through a lot and can impart a sense of perspective.

2.    Grandparents support their grandchildren

  •     An increasing number of grandparents are the sole support to their grandchildren, taking the place of the parents and playing the role of primary provider.
  •     In Canada, according to 2006 census data, we’re seeing an upward trend in the number of children for whom grandparents are the primary providers. The number of children under 25 in this situation increased to 54,865 in 2006 from 41,780 in 1991. (Vanier Institute for the Family, Fascinating Families Issue 11 2008).
  •     The same is true in the United States, where 2.6 million grandparents are responsible for most of the basic needs of one or more of the grandchildren who lived with them (2008 data from Census Bureau). Census Bureau reports this number in 2000 as 2.4 million.

3.    Grandparents have stories and wisdom to share
As we age we think about the legacy we will leave behind, and the desire runs deeper than simply gifting money. It is about leaving behind the essence of who we are and passing on our stories and life lessons to the next generation. Grandparents Day is an opportunity to make time for meaningful conversation, and share wisdom and stories across generations.

About Dr. Amy Inc.
A leader in caregiver wellness, Dr. Amy Inc. provides caregivers with expert information and support for the emotional and family issues that are a common part of caregiving. Dr. Amy Inc. was founded by Amy D’Aprix, MSW, PhD, CPCA. Known as Dr. Amy for her warm and engaging style, she is a sought-after speaker and a frequent guest on radio and television. Dr. Amy began working with seniors and their families more than 25 years ago, and was a caregiver to her parents for 10 years. She is the author of two books, and has written many articles on caregiving, aging, and retirement. See: http://www.dramycaregiving.com

For more information:
Shelly Potter: (416) 428-7540
shellyp(at)dramycaregiving(dot)com

Mothers Day and Fathers Day get their fair share of attention. What about Grandparents Day—September 11 this year? An increasing number of grandparents are the sole support and primary provider to their grandchildren. It’s time to recognize their contribution.

Daddy's Band

Daddy's Band

That's My Daddy

It was her first concert and she was there early. The place was humming with excitement as people poured into the Pavillion. People were friendly and happy and so was she. Suddenly she saw the stage light up and felt and heard the first chords of music through her ear protectors. She noticed one of the big overhead screens, and pointing at it excitedly, said “DaDa, DaDa!” Fifteen-month-old McCamy watched and heard her daddy’s band, Modern Man, as they kicked off the Sweetlife Festival at Merriweather Post Pavilion on May 1, 2011.

My Daddy is Singing

Since that time, Modern Man has been seen all around the D.C. area, in New York with The Attic Ends and many other spots.

Not sure what McCamy thought of the whole thing or if she likes her parents rockin’ into the night but she has been serenaded by her daddy  since before she was born so I guess she likes to see everyone else enjoying it.  She loves music too and rocks out on her own.

Plus the band sounds better all the time and I guess it is clear that this will not be her last concert. This is my favorite from their new EP “Long in the Tooth” by Modern Man.

Nana, Can I play your phone?

Nana, Can I play your phone?

When I first heard this request, I thought it was funny but now I am beginning to realize the change the once simple device has made in our lives and how “phone” is a total misnomer for the device that allows us to hold our world in the palm of our hand and to expand our braintrust exponentially!  With a simple google search or map request, we can avoid the pain and wasted moments of thinking and preparing.  With social media and text,   we no longer have to plan, consider others actions or even think ahead more than 3 minutes because we can just text them.  With mobile ads, businesses can target me based not only on my demographics, personal preferences and stated likes, they can know when I am conveniently located near their outlet.   With games, we can target our attention and eyes to a small focused area and concentrate on the eye hand coordination that makes Luke Skywalker battles believable and possible.

But should we let our kids “play our phones”?

From Christine Mallait’s blog on the subject  “One of the main ideas to consider about technology and children is: are they getting enough exposure to life outside of the one present inside a television, computer, cell phone, etc.? Back in the day (even ten years ago), children were outside climbing trees, playing sports like baseball in the park, or playing tag outside much more than today’s kids. The onset of technology into children’s lives has made playing Wii sports more desirable than playing soccer outside or going on the computer instead of going to the pool. While obviously children still find their ways into the great outdoors, there are more distractions for them now that video games, iPods, and cell phones have found themselves into the hands of today’s youth. Parents have begun buying into the “easy ways” to entertain children and televisions have become new-found babysitters. Is this necessarily the way the world should be – where technology obscures the great outdoors – especially in such nice weather during the summer? As well, what should the ground rules be for children and new gadgets?

My grandchildren are taught that too much TV, Computer, Wii, Technology will turn their “Brain to Mush”

What are your rules about technology and children?