Learning and Teaching Basic Manners
When a 2 year old tells you that there is ‘no pickin nose while cooking’ you really have to listen! And I must admit, there were times that her comments made me think twice about cooking and clean hands.
Last Christmas, Michelle who has 2 small boys was baking cookies. As they were getting all the items prepared they ended with washing their hands. Mom asked “Has Everybody washed their hands and not touched anything dirty since then?” Little Sam says yes, yes, yes and then hesitates “Wait, Mom, does that include picking my nose? ” So, I guess it really is a rule we need to learn.
Manners Matter and Rules
There are so very many rules it is a wonder that any of us are able to succeed in the social world. And there are new ones added every week it seems. Think about the required rules in the Middle Ages – stay alive pretty much covered it.
They were dirty, had horrible grooming habits, ate like goops and never, ever had to learn the difference in complex language similarities such as affect and effect.
Then came the Victorian Age and the rules multiplied. Next was the Guttenheim press and that took rules to a whole new level. The next period of growth that I am aware of is the American and French Revolutions where independence from the crown made rules even more necessary as no one else told us what to do. We each became responsible.
Now enter the age of Internet, Green Economy, Nutritional organic wholesomeness and sustainability. So many things to remember – what should we drop?
What’s Important to Teach Them?
What should we make sure everyone is taught and what can we leave to “Life’s Lessons”
When I was a child, every Sunday we talked to my grandparents who lived hundreds of miles away and we were only able to see once every year or so. I do not remember if we called them or they called us but it was an event in our household. I remember having to recall what I had done or accomplished to share with them each week and it was good to actually have this time to reflect on my week and plan how to tell them of the important activities in my life. This week I have texted my 14 year old granddaughter and received instant info (as needed), spoken with my 10 year old grandson which was sweet and simple and Skyped with my 2 year old granddaughter who is hundreds of miles away!
What communication is lost and gained with the technology available?
|Excitement and Uniqueness||Instant and Frequent|
|Reflection and Preparation||Spontaneous and Unrehearsed|
|Spoken is Interpreted Once||Texted is Interpreted Forever|
|Maturation of conversation||Auto correct|
Here are some of the facts I have learned about our communication changes:
Fully 72% of all teens — or 88% of teen cell phone users — send text messages, up from 51% of in 2006 and about 0% since 1996.
Have you ever been at a party and felt an awkward moment, so pulled out your cell phone and pretended to text, check an email, or chat?
You are not alone. A recent PEW study found that 13 percent of Americans admit to using their cell phones to prevent unwanted social interactions.
Hmm. Perhaps that’s why everyone’s always “texting” in the elevator. Does it mean our children will be awkward more or just deal with it different?
One of the most dramatic increases in the use of cell phones was from 10 to 11 year old range with over 80.5% owning a handset. The study goes on to discover that boys are gaining in number to have a phone over girls – it has increased 47.6% for boys since 2007 and only 17.2% for girls. As more wireless providers are offering services that are aimed at kids, such as the use of GPS tracking, there will continue to be a boom in the usage of mobile phones among children.
THERE ARE 300 MILLION VIDEO CALLS A DAY ON SKYPE –
How are you connecting with your grandchildren? Is it too much? Would you go back to the once a week updates? Not me – but I sure would love to hear the sweet sound of my grandmother’s soft giggle or my granddad’s knowing nod as I told of the important events of my week! Even Skype cannot bring that back.
Are you familiar with Pinterest ? It is an online scrap booking application and is so much fun! I used to spend hours thumbing through magazines looking for interesting articles but only really taking time to view the gorgeous images and dream about what might be. Pinterst is like that only better because you can find other friends or interesting people and follow their ideas too.
It is through Pinterest that I have found some great ideas for Memory Makers and my grandchildren this Christmas. Here are some of my favorites:
The things children wish for, especially when very young are often very touching or funny. This is a great way to capture those thoughts and make them a fun family tradition for years to come. Plus, they are simply cute!
Who can resist the hand prints or foot prints of little children and how much fun they have spreading their messy joy all over the place! These are great ideas and if you can get your little ones to ‘work within the lines’ then you are better than me! But oh did we have fun trying. (After Christmas I will show you my results but, for now it is best to look at the desired outcome!)
These are also great ideas for teachers and classes to take home to mommy as Christmas present…says me who cannot manage one little person!
The Sock Monkey has had its day – Its time for the Sock Reindeer! If you can sew, you can make this cute little guy and the kids will love it! Send me pictures if you complete it because I can’t sew and would love to see the results!
Do you have any special memory makers that you have made with your Grandchildren or that you want to make with your grandchildren? If so, please share them and add comments below!
Have a Merry Christmas and Happy Pinning everyone! Let me know if you need an invite!
- Christmas Pinterest (thingsifancy.com)
- day 5: crafty kiddos/double hand-print reindeer Christmas craft (ipinterest.wordpress.com)