Friends of mine, Sandy and Bob, made a trip to Denver recently to see their 13-year old granddaughter perform in a school play. After one performance of the play, there was a reception of sorts in the gym with hundreds of people present. Not knowing anybody other than their immediate family and not wanting to get in the way of the activities, Bob and Sandy found a spot to stand in the far corner of the room and just watched the action. Later that evening after they were home, their granddaughter commented to them: “The next time you are at my school, please don’t just stand there looking creepy.”
Sandy has no idea what she did to look “creepy”, and certainly has no idea how to look and be different next time so as to be more acceptable to her granddaughter.